Helping support partners

I'm sure you do nb, but best for both of you that she is in a better space when she gets home.

Hope all goes well for you and your partner today newbie. Thinking of you and sending happy thoughts your way.

Home now and on a bucket full of meds - slight improvement - the next week will be a challenge out of care and at home, wish us luck!

very best of luck to the two of you, oh and sending hugs.

i really feel sorry for my partner, he has to take in so much

Hun, your partner is supporting you, give him a hug and tell him you love him and you are greatful. All will be good, he clearly loves you, he just needs a little in return. Hugs to both of you.

hi Newbie...its been nearly a week since you added anything here...I hope it has been as good a week as it could possibly have been for you and your dear Mrs Newbie

I have a huge amount of admiration for you in your support for your partner...and in Mrs Newbie for her strength in asking for that support and help from you as she searches for a way through.

hey how's things newbie?

pam.
how are you enjoying the mens interest in you
nowdays?
Love

lol gm, nobody with that WOW factor, passed my way as yet. Enjoying looking.

Hi there -wow, I admire the people and the caring attitudes these pages show ('Mrs Newbie' - love it ) - we actually managed a couple of days away from town at a friends house doing absolutely nothing but resting, walking the dogs and watching the Food Channel this weekend lol.
The Meds seem to have finally made a change and she can see a future for once - but as the shrink has said two steps forward can mean one and 3/4 back so we'll see how the next week goes.
One other thing I have noticed is that once the initial stress has worn off and/or there is an improvement in your partner/family member, your own body suddenly admits how tired and exhausted it is - I am still trying to get a full nights sleep to recover as I have to work fulltime and have noticed that I need to recognise my work habits and not over doing it there too.
We'll keep you posted.
Newbie

Hey at least with watching the food channel you can enjoy all the food without the weight gain, lol. Sounds like you are both doing very well. Take each day as it comes and just enjoy. Well done you two and huge hugs to you both.

well done mr and mrs newbie..

look after yourselves - it will start to come right.

Huh- I would have agreed about that until she it best to pack her bags and go and her parents stay with tonight 'because shes still mad' - no word of warning....

ooohhhhh dear!

um how old is Mrs newbie?

Not that young! Almost 35

Sorry newbie, did I miss something, why is she angry??. Put arms around newbie, it will be ok.

Er.... 'mad' as in losing her mind - not angry
I lost my rag a bit too.... this is the pressure part that is the 'suck it up part for the partners..... this is just really, really upsetting

Oh gosh, sorry hun, I know that feeling. Hugs to you. I know just how upsetting your situation is, but REMEMBER she has not lost her mind, she is in a very bad space and needs support. You also need support so post away and hopefully we can be there for you through this tough time.

Today I feel at the end of my tether..... and up and leaving really crossed a line. My feelings are mixed between 'whatever' and 'argghhhhhhhhhh'

there is no easy answer to this one, sorry.

I sincerely hope you guys can get through this.. we are working through my depression and fortunately i think our relationship is getting stronger,

I have tried to walk out of it - several times, and have been pulled back by my husband. Yes I was probably barking mad - screaming all the way, he just stood in my way when I was packing my bags. I hated him and what he was doing at the time - but the reality is that I hated myself and not him and not what he was doing.

I am grateful that he stopped me, because now there is no going back for us, we are solid.

I truely hope that you guys get to this stage. Yes it is difficult, but please if you think the relationship is worth it - then go for it and dig your toes in. It will be worth it in the end.

keep your chin up ok and keep us posted.

Newbie feeling somewhat crap for not stopping her - but I was:
A - stunned that she stood up from the couch and left and
B - so exhausted that this is a never ending battle at the moment that I just wanted her to go away....bad, bad choice methinks

oh i didn't mean it that way, sorry newbie didn't mean to make you feel bad.

What i was trying to say was if you think the relationship is worth it you need to perservere and be honest (perhaps in a diplomatic way) with her.

take tonight to recharge and see if you can get some sleep and re evaluate tommorrow - how does that sound?

Huh - already feeling bad, fear not!
Sounds very plausible and sensible actually - need to eat, try to sleep, re-evaluate in morning.

Please can you let me know how you get on. Now that i am seeing this disease through my partners eyes (well as much as I can) i know that it is so hurtful and difficult for them.