Re: JK. doing ok (The thread formerly known as Really unhappy)

[Guest]

Paddy, I recall the message you posted earlier in April - it was also guided at me. The difference between then and now is I'm not criticising anyone here on the boards. I accepted, when I read your post the first time that people here DO have their own issues and don't necessarily have the capacity to help me as much I'd perhaps like. To be honest I've been really touched by this thread - everyone has been so nice.

I will admit though I still struggle with having a sense of entitlement when it comes to people I am 'close to'. Namely my parents. I really do feel they could do more to help - especially if they are a large part of the reason I am this way. It may be wrong Paddy, but I do feel hard done by, as far as they are concerned.

I just know and feel so strongly that if I had a kid, who mentioned being as depressed as I am/have been, I would do everything in my power to help that kid. Because I would truly love him, and truly want him to be happy. With my father, I feel like I"m an old person in a rest home. You know what i mean, family comes to see you once a week and put on a smiling face but DO THEY REALLY CARE? Or can they not wait to get out of there?

I acknowledge and accept that I have to do 99% of the work - this is my issue and I need to own it and deal with it. And please don't think I'm not trying. But I do feel bitter about not having the support I have needed growing up. And I can't help but wish I had more than I do now.

Capitalism, consumerism, globalisation, the international monetary system, and an increasing pressure to take care of your own in order to survive - along with a growing sense of community isolation, especially in the cities; has led to a world where we are far less interconnected and generally more self motivated.

I too get really quite down about this GR. I really do, unfortunately, feel that the world is an increasingly horrible place to live. Some people suggest just not to watch the news, not to think about what goes on outside of my little world. But I really don't know if its better to sad or ignorant.

[Guerrilla Roach]

I don't get down about it anymore Jaffakiwi, it is a sad fact indeed, but the true way to change something is to first change it in yourself. Love is the answer for me. Love yourself and love everybody else. We are one and the same after all. Ignorance is not the answer nor is sadness. The world is the world; frustrating, unfair, greedy, and aggressive. However, the world is also; happy families, loving people, selfless acts, things like this place, good people - many who have been hurt by the world- meeting and caring for each other. People like Paddy who sees a need and then fills it. That's real courage. That is what life can be and should be. I think that nothing will change until we all start to care for each other, help, give, turn the other cheek, and forgive. You, me, all of us are beautiful people - where it counts - in our hearts. This comes across in messages of support, hope, care and love. You all do it, day in and day out. You all personify the changes that are needed, in the way you interact here. Jaffa, see yourself for who you are, someone who cares. That is beauty!!!

[Guest]

Apologies Jaffa

Please excuss my reply. GR apologies also.

For some reason went off into 'MY' world.....

Jaffa it is awesome that you know you have the support from members on TBBD.

Take care
Poetry ((((hugs))))

[daze7]

Hi jaffa, You mention something in your post about parents. I know it is very difficult to have parents who cannot meet a basic need - the need to be understood - and be supportive. Unfortunately some parents, for many, many reasons don't have the ability. My parents were the same - 'present but unavailable' - very hard to deal with - however I had to learn to 'meet my own needs' as much as possible - so I got some 'surrogate parents' - then one or two of them died! Damn them! Anyway, just to let you know you're not alone with the parents thing.

I'm pleased to see you've had some FUN - swimming - FUN is sooooo important. I've had some fun and a laugh today playing Mah Jong. Hugs, Daze

[Guerrilla Roach]

No apology needed Poetry.

[Guest]

unfortunately, feel that the world is an increasingly horrible place to live. Some people suggest just not to watch the news, not to think about what goes on outside of my little world. But I really don't know if its better to sad or ignorant.

I think that nearly all of us are horrified by the world today.. and not watching the news is not the answer...however what we all need to do is remember that we just need to live with the bad news and the good. We can't change all things.. only some things. .. sometimes we have to accept there are things we just cannot change...

[Guest]

Hi All. How we all doing? Well the sun came out this morning, and it really made me want to get out of bed and do something productive. I'm sure I must have S.A.D! I have gone to the supermarket this morning and stocked up on fruit, and for the rest of the day I'm going to be spring cleaning the house. I'm sick of having low energy and its my mission to fight that.

[Guest]

Guys I can't explain it but I'm sitting here crying. Not sad tears though. Really emotional tears.

The sun is out and its so so beautiful. I'm listening to music and I"m smiling and dancing around the room.

I guess it feels like such a relief, that this is possible? I'm not sure. I really can't explain why I'm feeling emotional right now.

[Guest]

Hi Jaffa,

cry all you need too,... there is something that you need to get out of your system.....

hope you feel better soon,

[hopes4happiness]

Hey Jaffa, that made me really smile reading your post, I understand what you mean, having that overwhelming feeling. ITS GREAT! I hope the rest of your day has been happy. Well done on the fruit! That's a great start!


Remember we care about you!

[daze7]

Hi Jaffa ....... Good on you for changing the name of the thread ... that's positive, isn't it! I'm pleased you've done that. Hope your day is going OK today. Moods and feelings come and go. Staying 'in the moment' (and moments pass) is part of the secret. ........... Daze

[hopes4happiness]

Heya, hope today went well for you!

[Guest]

hi jaff, how are you today.

hope you are ok

[_wizza_]

big hugs jaffa-hope u feel better in the morning

[Guest]

Aww you guys. Your all so sweet and caring
I dont really know how I'm feeling today. I guess I'm not really feeling anything. Apart from the stress of nagging assignments I guess, and the frustration of having absolutely no motivation to do them.

But I'm gonna force myself, even if I am procrastinating right now by being here, haha.

I have a bad lower back that is killing me (and I'm only 25). I went to see a chiropractor once and he did X-rays, the conclusion was he wants me to go in and see him 4 times a week at $35 a visit. There's no way I can afford to do that, and chiropracty isn't even a proven science so I really dont know what to do about it.

Oh well that can be my moan for the day. Now I'm heading off to uni. I hope I can be productive. Hope you all have a good day.

[hopes4happiness]

Now I am sure you hurt your back while mowing the lawn last week didn't you? You better go see the doctor about that!!

[greasemonkey]

jaffa,
you would be best not to incur further responsibilities at this time.
ie,give Chiro-gyro-practor the by-Pass!

That science
aint the science
of the GODS,
but they sure know how to hook you in
and make money out of thin air.

[Guest]

Have you tried and oesteopath?

[greasemonkey]

myLIFE!

sure, I have found them MUCH-MORE attuned to knowing what life is about
and wholly-reccommend their survices.
Lol,
I guess there must be bad-buggars
in all areas of life ehhh!

[hopes4happiness]

Hoping you had a good day JK!

[Guest]

Thanks, yeah I did have an ok day thanks. Don't really have much else to say. My back is killing me, but appointment with physio on Monday. Hopefully he can help.

2 more weeks of uni, 4 more weeks til exams. Can't wait til its over.

[greasemonkey]

Thanks, yeah I did have an ok day thanks. Don't really have much else to say. My back is killing me, but appointment with physio on Monday. Hopefully he can help.

2 more weeks of uni, 4 more weeks til exams. Can't wait til its over.

INVERTED hanging frames come in two styles Jaffa.
One you put your feet into boots in the aparatus,
the otheryou kneel over.

Both get Gravity to work with you!

if all ealse fails
try zydol,
another name for Tramadole hydrochloride...
its a gem!

[Guest]

those hanging frames are great ay?

[greasemonkey]

superb.....
My buddy has one,the 'BOOTs model',
He is in His seventies
and its saved him all this time.

Just last month he had a spinal-op on the disintergrated joint
and He were doing well,the last time I called Him.

Using gravity to aide-depressives
is an area I would like to be usefull-in!

Im aware of How the breath is superior in healing!
the MiND we have on our shoulders!

Psychic massage to Jaffa
leaving no place
loveless.
lol

[Guest]

Sorry guys I have no idea what you are referring to here. Google hasn't helped me much either. DO you have a link or something for more information?

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