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Hi guys,

I'm feeling ok for now, a bit more relaxed. I'm meeting my councillor tomorrow night as he is worried about me.
*Sigh* I'm scared about what is going to do about the house situation. And i'm so worried that I wont be able to look after myself, that my depression will take over..

it will if you let it.

Don't let it.

Then for now I will let it.

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But you even know how hard that is when someone is trying to get you to be rational.

Mylife, not very long ago you, an adult and mother of two young children and wife to a very lovely, supportive man, was talking about throwing yourself under a large moving vehicle, and even went to the extent of checking out timetables. When I suggested you be 'responsible' for your childrens sake you claimed you 'didn't appreciate being judged'. You of all people know that deep depression does NOT respond to reason. What we know in our heads just does NOT translate to our hearts. Please give Qwerky the same respect and considersation that you demand for yourself. I am so glad you have turned a corner and are on your way up but that is no reason to suddenly forget the despair and hopelessness that others may be feeling.

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MYLIFE- PLease don't do that. You know I don't want you to do that.

Please.

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ML I tried to delete the post that you responded to but after repeated tries have not figured out how to do it. Would appreciate a lesson on how it is done.

However I just wonder why every time someone even slightly questions your judgement or makes a comment that you consider 'judgemental' about yourself you threaten to resign? You are a big part of this site and when you are not around the boards are very quiet. You would be a huge loss to everyone, especially Paddy I suspect. Would you like me to just go along with everything you say to make you feel special and not keep threatening to leave on my account? I feel a lot of pressure from you to align my thoughts with yours as I do not want the responsibility of being the person who makes you resign yet again. Please let me know what I can do to make you stay, feel secure about your place here, and stop threatening to leave.

Hi there bb, you need to click on edit and highlight the text and replace it with other text.

You can delete posts fully if no one has posted after yours, but if they have, that is the only way I can see around it.

No sweat!

I did that and it didn't seem to work, then I deleted the text and wrote something else but the original post kept coming back.

Good points Bluebird, theres not much use of coming onto a site like this and throwing a tanty everytime someone disagrees with us.

Is it through conflict and intercourse that we are challenged and made to look at ourselves.

My theory is that Mylife makes this empty threat because she needs to hear people say "No, please dont go, we'll miss you". We all like to feel needed. I know I did when I threw my toys...

Qwerky I'm sorry your struggling and I hope you feel better soon. Mylife, don't leave, just accept that you may have been out of line here. Bluebird - good on you for sticking up for Qwerky here.

And hugs to all
JK.

I"m glad you'll be here mylife.

Guys, please stop this. This site is NOT for people to do what is in the post.

Everybody is different, you all know that. People take things more sensitively than others, more serioulsy, etc etc. I know I certainly do. It doesn't help members when others go on saying things the member should say/do.

Maybe this is just how some people cope with it.. No one is perfect. NO one can be excatly how you want them to be. We're our own people, and yes that means that we have our own opinions. But sometimes I should be best if you keep them to yourself.
If you intend to hurt members at TBBD, then that is just unfair, cruel and terribly hurtful considering what this site is.

I know i'm having my own opinion now, and choose what you like to do with it- But what i'm sure many people have told you, If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
It's not fair to hurt people who have already been hurt in their life to this extend.

Have a lovely night all.

Hey qwerky, how are you today?

I'm alright thanks.
How are you?

ok, bit off but ok.

Doesn't help that I don't feel like talking to family, just want to withdraw at the moment.

Have you started to pack?

No, It's not confirmed yet, and we don't have many things anyway..

I know that feeling of withdrawlment (if that is a word...)
I want to do that almost every day

U can't stop thinking about not wanting to be here. It's torment!

I get angry with myself and then get sad.. *sigh*

Think I'll follow BB's lead. Bye ya all. I do wish you well, even if my leaving is somewhat bitter. I hope admin has a long hard noodle scratch about why others get frustrated with this place, and what he can do about that.

JK.

sigh what's the bloody point anymore.

There is a lot to the bloody point and there is a lot of bloody point to be had too..

Remember you are going through a tough time with councilling and your own emotions too..

Give yourself a break and cut some slack!

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He won't think so,

give it a chance. Have you applied for any other type of councilling?

I really don't think it is worth it.
I'm tired of feeling like this and it wont change any time soon.

I have my whole life ahead of me and that is what scares me to death.

I just can't do it. Not anymore.