What Next???

Hey there,
Well Today I quit my Job! I have been so down lately that I just couldnt get out of bed to go, and of course the boss was not amused and I just couldnt stand to keep trying everyday to go to work for someone when I need so much "Work" myself. I have no idea how I'm going to make ends meet but the way I feel I just really dont even care! I'm sick of hearing oh look once you get there you'll be fine or well you have to go what else are you going to do? To be honest I dont know what to do, I just dont! I wish I could just "knuckle down" and go to work or go back to the gym or ANYTHING but its just such a Fight to move, I dont know what I'm afraid of or how to change how I feel, So I was wondering - Whats Next for me??? Has anyone been in this situation?

register with WINZ? Find a sugar daddy?check the job section of your paper? move in with family / Firends?

Best of luck..
Dj

Hi let-me-out

I'm so sorry to read that life right now is not going so well. Umm Yes to 'has anyone been in this situation". My "what's next for me" approach would be to make an appointment with a Dr or contact your local mental health team. They will be able to help you get medical help and financial help.

Taking time out is okay and sounds like this is something you need right now. I hope you can ask a 'friend' or family member to help you take the steps to look after you.

Keep writing in here, it does help heaps. I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that others have and maybe still are where you are right now, and are healing. The first step you have already taken, is recognising that 'work' right now is about you and not the 'boss'.

LMO,
I don't usually Post in The Honorary Blokes Section of TBBD - but tonight I am.

I do understand pretty much how things might be feeling today.

My last employer was Ministry of Social Developement and at midday one day, I stood up, logged off their SWIFT programme, handed me I.D. stuff in and said I can't do it for a moment longer. Five minutes to lunchtime, I had a job. 25 minutes later, I was a train wreck. Believe me, it was wreck worth living through, and you can and you will too. Congratulations on proving you are a Survivor, because what you did, is what survivors need to do. Hey, and it might only turn out to be a mild derailment, not a head on smash type train wreck.

Right now, I 'd say that what Poetry says (thats a painful admission) is spot on, hon.

It is OK to empower others to step in, guide and help you. But you'll have to let them know you need them. Tomorrow morning, k. Choice, thanks.

Personally, I'd prolly not go looking for a Sugar Daddy or job hunting right now because I suspect you're quite delicate feeling at the moment and ya gotta look after you, before any other consideration.

Sorry for butting in. LMO - its just, yeah, Been There, Done That, Didn't Save Enough to Buy The T-Shirt.

Paddy.

Thats great that the mental health team may help financially... there have been many times I thought I'd walk out of my job, only to feel terrified of being without any money, so I stayed.

hope you are feeling ok.. or as ok as you can be...

cheers
Dj

Oh I cant say Thanyou enough for your kind words and advice, it really does feel great to finally be able say the things I've wanted to say for such a long time and hear that its ok to feel that way and I'm not crazy! Just in need of help SO thankyou all again it gives me HOPE! I woke up not entirely freaking out about giving up my job, but still a little scared. I'm going to take today for a bit of reflection and take up your advice and make an appointment with my Dr. THANKYOU, THANKYOU,THANKYOU

Hey Let-Me-Out

Hope your doctors appointment went ok. You have two options with WINZ. The first is the sickness benifit which is for short term (renewed every six months) or the invalids benifit which is longer term (reassesed evry two years, more support and more money). Talk to your doctor about which will suit you best.

Sadly there isnt much support for mental health consumers in Marlborough, or atleast there wasn't when I was there. If you are in Blenheim or can make it into Blenheim there is Richmond Fellowship, their number is 577 8800. They run a drop in centre and have a day program etc which may be of use to you.