Hard to handle...

Hi all,
i haven't been on for awhile. On the positive side things haven't gotten worse. On the negative, they haven't gotten much better either. The thing thats the hardest to handle is being so damn LONELY!!! I've pushed people away over the years and now that i'm prepared for & want company, i'm struggling to find any. I haven't made a new friend in years, since uni, and i don't know how, or where to meet people. Being so cut off from people makes daily life harder as i have no one to bounce ideas off, get comfort from, vent to or get sympathy from. I literally go to work and come home. That's it. It needs to change, i know that; but i'm not sure how. Damn, i'm lonely. I'm not even talking about romance/sex, just friendship. I get frustrated with myself for putting myself in this situation, painting myself into a corner!! I'm quite sad about it, it weighs me down.

Hi there huttlady

Long time no see - so happy to see you here!

sorry to hear your frustrations, but do know where you are coming from.

Friends - good friends will come back,

look after yourself my friend,

Hi Huttlady,

I find myself in the same situation but for slightly different reasons. Part of my isolateing is due to my health but part of my isolation was/is due to external factors outside of my control.

I am in Wellington Central and if you want to talk, meet up for a coffee or drop me a line send me a private message and I can send you my details.

Ros

Hi Hutt lady I'm from the Hutt too and work in Welly. I too have pushed ppl away but also in the abusive relationship I was in I wasn't allowed to socialise at all and never went out or visited so I also lost a lot of my old friends years ago, even at one stage when my son moved out of house my ex wouldn't allow me to visit my son. My son is with me now though. I have often sat alone having a coffee at McCafe in the hutt or at Q'Gate.

Oh gosh you guys, somedays, well most days, i just wonna reach out and give you all hugs. It must be soo hard feeling isolated and alone. Throws kisses at everyone and hope todays better for all. Pam.

It is very hard when the feeling of isolation and aloneness take over.

I hope you both get through this because I know it is yuck!

I hope your day is better for you both too.

Thanks everyone for your kindness. I'm trying really hard to stay positive and think of ways i can 'get out there'. I guess i'm a work in progress.