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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 4:14 am

They can't even ask for leave at work??

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Post by claire_sky on Tue Jun 16, 2009 4:25 am

Hey ya, yip thats me too! I remember when i started my job the boss told me i could work flexible hours but i was still TERRIFIED to leave earlier then everyone else! I was going on holiday once and waited MONTHS before i asked if i could have time off which only stressed me out more because it was getting so close to fly time that i thought they would say NO!

So yeah im a total wimp and get scared, intimidated and NERVOUS all the time! Im the same at even making phone calls!!

Just practise what you want to say, over and over again, and try and get a feel for when the right time to ask is!

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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 4:33 am

It's still having to talk to them about it- I freeze up- I'm afraid they will say no and all confidence (the little that I have) will get lost.

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Post by claire_sky on Tue Jun 16, 2009 4:45 am

OH hey there is no shame in stuttering or freezing up! I do it ALL the time but only when i absolutely have to talk to someone i dont want to. If you need time off then you got to do it!

I am not good for advice but if you see the chance to ask them take it. Just go okay nows the moment, i wanna hurry up and get it over with so i can relax, no matter what their decision is, at least i will be free from stressing over this! LOL. (Ok my way of thinking is totally nuts)

Once you have started with the "umm is it possible if i was about take leave from work" Just carry on your confidence will grow as you go on!

And my favourite have a back up plan! (If it doesnt go well, make sure your ready to comfort yourself with lots of VENTING! But good venting. Or a reward to think about. Sounds stupid. But thats the only way i can reason with myself to make myself be brave enough to talk to the boss. Talk to yourself over and over again with really postitive stuff. Try and say it casually? Dont use too many words, if they are yes no people then you will get answer straight away.

I hope you get it sorted soon, i know how you feel and its horrible. Good luck qwerky. I have rread some of your other posts and yip ive been in jobs that other people would be better suited for and i cant for the life of me figure out why they hired me. Well teh fact is they did hire you, they thought you were good enough. So you must be.

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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 7:39 am

can you email them instead? from home perhaps?

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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 8:12 am

It would make me feel silly becasuse they're the type of person to say, "you caoulf have just asked em, we sit next to each other"..then making me feel stupid, you know...

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Post by logical-cents on Tue Jun 16, 2009 8:45 am

Do you guys not have holiday/leave application forms at work? Both my current and past employers had these, just take one, full it out and give it back to manager or whoever you are meant to or put it in there in-tray
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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 9:32 am

hear hear lc, what paperwork do you need to complete qwerky?

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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 9:41 am

I don't know about any paper work- I just talk to my boss and fill it out in a spreadsheet.

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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 10:07 am

well, i hate to say this but there is only one thing you can do. face the boss and tell them. there doesn't seem to be anyother way around it.

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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 10:10 am

I know. I'm going to try tomorrow. I know it's a silly thing to say but..wish me luck..

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Post by Guest on Tue Jun 16, 2009 10:15 am

good luck!!

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 6:35 am

I managed to get time off work- only because my boss was talking about her leave, I decided to bring mine up.

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:22 am

good for you qwerky, where are you going to??

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:34 am

No where, just having time away from everything.

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:40 am

good for you!! are you going to sleep in... do no housework, eat lots of choclate, etc..

sounds like an ideal holiday to me!

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:50 am

I'm going to go to the doctors. Then I haven't really thought about the rest.

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:51 am

good for you. Spend the week on you, and getting and making sure you are well!!

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 7:56 am

I'm only getting 2 days off. but its before the weekend, so it will be 4 days..I'm looking forward to it. I never really look foward to things these days because I never do anything to begin with, so I guess it is my fault to begin with.

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 8:06 am

qwerky90 DON'T EVER BLAME YOURSELF!!

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 8:08 am

Well I'm sorry, but that's what I do..

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 8:20 am

don't be sorry, please

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 8:24 am

I can't really do anything right..So I don't know

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 8:36 am

at least you can type well!

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Post by Guest on Wed Jun 17, 2009 8:41 am

Nah, I wrote that post wrong so I had to edit it

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