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Post by Guest on Tue Oct 20, 2009 3:02 am

I'm not in a very good head space today Sad

I can't explain myself for the life of me and no one is willing to listen to my explianation, they just put the full blame on me. And becasue people aren't willing to listen to me, I cry. (But I hide so they can't see me...)
I feel useless.

I'm tired and i'm working late.
I'm sick of being like this.

I'm tired of being walked over and taken advantage of.


*sigh* Sad

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Post by Guest on Tue Oct 20, 2009 3:11 am

Hi Qwerky, take heart hon, you do have people who care for you and don't put blame on you. Hope to catch up with you in chat or somewhere else later.

Hugs Judy

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Post by peterpam on Tue Oct 20, 2009 5:00 am

Hey Qwerky hun, we listen. May not always be able to give advise but we can at least listen. Sending hugs with warm fuzzies. Pam

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Post by Guest on Tue Oct 20, 2009 5:28 pm

hey qwerky

how are you feeling today? I hope you do feel better because you deserve to!

take care my friend,

sunny

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Post by Guest on Tue Oct 20, 2009 7:03 pm

Morning,

i'm ok. Tired, but i'm just waiting it ouy until the long weekend.
Then I will get to relax. yay

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Post by Guest on Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:33 pm

I had a catch up with my boss and she said these things to me:

She told me that I need to work on my communication and I need to work on not missing little things. (When I am TRYING and i'm not terrible at it, but she is making out like I am)

She told me I need to find things to do when iím bored (Which I have been doing, even before the catch up I was off doing something)

She said that I used to be very good before I went of the rail.....and now iím slowely coming back on...
She asked me what was stopping me from being how I was before(meaning before I was diagnosed I was doing really well in my job, then something happened)

She also asked me why I canít explain things, which made me very sad because I donít know- She told me that one day I could explain things perfectly then the next I canít at all.

She also said that I should accept the mistakes I've made and not make excuses...(Pretty much what this tread was about..I tried to explain myself but she didn't want to hear it)

Sad

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Post by Guest on Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:36 pm

She also asked why I don't have opinions on things. I have NO idea. She made me feel useless about myself.

I guess i'm the bad guy though, as she is the boss and can tell me what to do..bla bla bla..

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Post by Guest on Tue Oct 20, 2009 11:52 pm

I'm so unhappy Sad

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Post by peterpam on Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:58 am

Honey, just cos shes the boss, doesn't make her right, remember that. Before I lived with someone with depression, I would have been just like her, ignorant, thank god for my experience, I know so much more. Honey you are doing very well, dont let her comments bring you down, its not her fault, nor is it yours. You take care now, do your best, you are a winner for seeking help sweet and i for one am proud of you. Hugs Pam

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Post by Guest on Wed Oct 21, 2009 8:08 am

depression is really hard to understand for anyone who hasn't been there. but plenty of us have experiences what you are experiencing... sometimes it is so incredibly frustrating not being able to the most basic functions on life, that we can do skillfully when we are well.

Just know that you are not alone, and that you won't always be in this place.

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Post by Guest on Wed Oct 21, 2009 7:15 pm

She just makes me feel bad. She is a really nice lady though, but just some of the things says is not nice, even about other people. She doesn't see the side of people having bad days, weeks, months, years..
She expects them to be totally on the ball 24/7.
It's not fair.
I'm having bad thoughts again and i'm getting scared.

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Post by Guest on Wed Oct 21, 2009 10:42 pm

What has changed in me??! I don't understand Sad

I don't know what to do

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Post by Guest on Thu Oct 22, 2009 3:58 am

Qwerky,

you know this will pass, take one day at a time and remember to breathe!

Have you taken any time out for you lately?

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Post by Guest on Thu Oct 22, 2009 5:05 am

why do you care

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Post by daze7 on Thu Oct 22, 2009 7:09 am

Hello qwerky .... So sorry to hear you're not so good ... you were so bright a wee while ago. But with depression it is so easy to be 'knocked sideways' again. We all care how you are. Are you having any counselling at the moment or in the near future? A counsellor could help you identify things that get to you and help with some strategies for you to use. You deserve the best! ..... Daze
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Post by Guest on Thu Oct 22, 2009 7:55 am

I did have a councilor, but she wasn't very good at all so I stopped- But I made her believe i was ok and I persuaded myself as well somehow.

But it's all just stupid now.
My bf doesn't understand either when he should be the one who understands the most.
He just says that I was fine before, and he tells me to stop being silly.

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Post by Guest on Thu Oct 22, 2009 8:14 am

Why do I care?

Because I just do, you are my friend and I care because of it.

Sorry Qwerky, but that is the way it is at the moment!

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Post by Bella on Thu Oct 22, 2009 8:42 pm

Qwerky, I don't know the words to use to make your pain go away.
Life with depression is really bumpy, and believe it or not, there will be a tomorrow that is better.

Look after you, spoil yourself, eat chocolate, take a bubble bath, do something just for you, and know there are people out there that do care, and do understand.

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Post by Guest on Thu Oct 22, 2009 11:36 pm

In my heart of hearts, it's just not fair for anyone to have to go through this.

It ruins peoples lives, ruins relationships.
It's just a horrible thing to have, it truly is.

Life is just to short to have to worry about any of this, yet we all live with it daily.

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Post by Guest on Thu Oct 22, 2009 11:50 pm

Of course its not fair. But its not fair that people get cancer. Its not fair that people get born into third world countries. Its not fair that some people are disabled.

We are dealt the hand we are dealt. But the good thing about our condition, some times we have the power to do something about it.

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Post by Guest on Fri Oct 23, 2009 12:01 am

Sad k

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Post by Bella on Fri Oct 23, 2009 12:08 am

I know it probably seems hopeless today qwerky, and it may even seem hopeless again tomorrow. But one day it will seem a little bit better, and then a whole lot better, and one day, you will forget you even felt like this at all. I promise.

The worse thing about our lives, is our own brain seems to work against us, I often think it would be great to be a robot, and be able to get a brain overhaul, when I needed one.

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Post by Guest on Fri Oct 23, 2009 3:04 am

What I've really come to notice about myself and depression, is that if I have one bad day, it feels like I've been miserable and depressed forever. Conversely, if I have one good day, I can see life is good and I wonder what the hell yesterday was about.

Always remember "This too will pass"

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Post by Guest on Fri Oct 23, 2009 8:49 pm

hey qwerky - hope you are 'better' today - sunny

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Post by Guest on Tue Oct 27, 2009 10:09 pm

How can people be so happy with life and others not so much.
I honestly have a fantastic life, I just donít understand why I am like this- I shouldnít be, but because I am it makes me so much more sad.

Itís just not fair and I know people have to Ďdealí with it, as it is the only way we can get through it. But I seriously hate it. I hate it with a passion!

I want to be happy, I want to not have to worry about thinking bad thoughts, to not see the pain in the eyes of people I love. It breaks my heart. 
But I do know that if I did anything horrible the pain in their hearts wouldnít go away. I just hate being like this because it feels like I wonít change any time soon.

I want to grow up, I want this Ďchapterí of Lizzie to pass. I want there to be a happier chapter, but right now I seriously donít see anything like that in the future.

Iím not suicidal- just so you know. Iím just sad that I donít see a brighter future for myself.
I have no idea what will be out there, but iím afraid all Iíll do is hurt the people I love and continue hurting them.

I know that since I'm thinking about it- It's almost determined to come true (eg, you think about not getting stressed but you get stressed even more)

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