Helping support partners

I hope it does work for both of you 6egirl, you both deserve happiness,

Hey GM and all. Unfortunately I'm not joking about the ECT. That is what was discussed at his last psyhicatrist appt -this is after 18 months of not being able to stabllise him. However, I dont think we will need to consider ECT because his mood seems stable even though his anti-psychotics have been reduced. I would like him to get off the anti-psychotics altogether as now that he is on lithium for the bipolar, he seems to be OK. We tried to take him off before but he went extremely manic (however at that stage the bipolar had not been picked up). He has come a long way because he was extemely unwell. I totally understand what you say about the meds and the effect of the side effects outweighting the therapeutic effect, but I do also believe that had he not had them he would not be here today. Interesting what you say about his spirituality - you are right - he has no connection with it yet, but I think he will be starting on the journey. Yes, I have support - an amazing Clinical Psychologist and he has his own Clinical Psychologist (a male) - and it is costing a fortune - but if you dont have your mental health / health, then what do you have? Love to all, K

I just wanted to say a very big thankyou to all of you. Weather, you are the one suffering the depression or are the partner of, when you share with your partner you are just awesome. We need to share to be a team. Mylife your man is wonderful and so are you, you guys rock. GM, I love to hear of your love for your partner, it shows me there is hope. Newbie, I feel so sad for you, but I know you had love. Paddy thanks for sharing your connection, your'e a honey. To everyone else, I just loves yah, fanks, you make my day.

We (as in myself, my mother and the furry family) went to the church we had J's funeral at for a Pet Service today.
J and I had taken the furry whanau every year for the past 4 years so it was a must on the Calendar.
It is always a joyful time to celebrate new beginnings - so far as during a Hymn, Donegal (the Irish terrier) joined in the singing
There was a time to reflect and light a candle to think of those we had lost both two and four legged - J got her candle and another was lit for past and missed furs.
Her family were also present and it was good but tragic and upsetting at the same time. I continue to talk and share her story to let people know that depression and the angst of mental health should not be hidden away, this feels good. The missing her feels bad.
N

Hugs Newbie, but sounds like you had a great day.

Hi all, just checking in. Newbie - how are you doing? been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing. Mr 6egirl is doing well, I have been a bit up and down, love to all...K

6egirl wrote:Hey GM and all. Unfortunately I'm not joking about the ECT. That is what was discussed at his last psyhicatrist appt -this is after 18 months of not being able to stabllise him. However, I dont think we will need to consider ECT because his mood seems stable even though his anti-psychotics have been reduced. I would like him to get off the anti-psychotics altogether as now that he is on lithium for the bipolar, he seems to be OK. We tried to take him off before but he went extremely manic (however at that stage the bipolar had not been picked up). He has come a long way because he was extemely unwell. I totally understand what you say about the meds and the effect of the side effects outweighting the therapeutic effect, but I do also believe that had he not had them he would not be here today. Interesting what you say about his spirituality - you are right - he has no connection with it yet, but I think he will be starting on the journey. Yes, I have support - an amazing Clinical Psychologist and he has his own Clinical Psychologist (a male) - and it is costing a fortune - but if you dont have your mental health / health, then what do you have? Love to all, K

Go very carefull eGirl.
Its easy for the Dispensers to poison us in their meaningful-urgency
to put things right.
Mental illness is best cured with the Mind,not drugs.
The Body is Gross, the mind is Subtle.

What i have found out along the track
is that Sydol (a pain killer) has a wonderful side effect of stilling (calming)
the Mental Dialoque within the mind.

This will give Him the contemplative-peacefullness and well-being
He needs to miss-making the Horrible decisions ppl sometimes make
to get rid of Pain.

Pain is at the heart of all mental disease.

Open the heart and allow that pain to surface (without blame)
and sooner or later all pain is exhausted
and love is known.

Give your Man My love and attention.
Cuddles for you BOTH!

Hello Newbie, I'm just wondering how you're doing? I've been thinking of you.

Daze

Hey Daze, 6egirl et al
Trying to come back to a new reality - trying meditation and the odd massage to get through the hard parts. Sadly, having a mentally ill Partner, who has taken their own life, does cast a shadow on you. J never 'displayed' her illness just struggled internally for a very long time. I get waves of guilt, sadness, pain but try to ride it out as much as I can
Thanks for checking in, appreciate it
N

hey newbie,

nice to see you back. I know it is difficult and hope you know you are welcome here anytime.

What medication are you taking? I hope it is helping you because your great..

Hi all, just checking in and hopeing everyone is well and taking care of themselves. Hi newbie thinking of you, hope youre doing ok. Take care everyone, hugs to all.

Hello Support Team
Finding it all a bit tiring at the moment and could possibly be accused as being on the irritable side.
My Life - I'm doing meditation not medication lol - it does help although at the moment I'm wondering about the benefits of EFT as I've also been having some not so nice flashbacks?
Hows everyone doing?
N

Hugs newbie, you'll get there hun, it will take time, dont expect to much of yourself, just go with the flow. Cry, laugh, smile, remember, cry again, what ever works for you, its all healing.

Hi all. How are you doing? Been away for a while - Chicken Pox in the house (me included!). Both boys got it and then I got it. Mr 6e doing OK, but it is a daily struggle. He is off the anti-psychotics but still zoned out. There are no easy answers. Newbie - been thinking about you lots - how are you?

Feeling totally fed up with it all as well. Someone please tell me that it is worth it and he does actually feel some gratitude for the pain and trauma that I go through. He is so insular and I feel so invisible.