Re: Has anyone else lost friends during the time of their illness?

by mylife on Tue Oct 06, 2009 7:57 am

hi there books

I am so pleased for you.,

Being able to release some of the tension and worries is a good start and a good step.

I am also sorry to hear that you and your family had to go through all of that - of course timings are critical, they certainly are - lying in the subcontious memory they are triggered by all sorts.

take care bookisy - I care for you.

by becks on Wed Oct 07, 2009 10:09 am

Hi Books,
Thank-you for sharing some of your life with us. I felt so sad that your family used and abused you the way that they did. I can relate to some of the things you talk about. I hope you feel like you have some friends at TBBD. I know it's different to 'real' friends. Since I have been a member here I have been so impressed with the support, kindness and acceptance that people have given to others. In some ways, our cyber friendships are more real because we often divulge information that we may not share with our other friends. Big hugs Books. Be kind to yourself. x flower

by greasemonkey on Wed Oct 07, 2009 1:37 pm

Being Kind to ourSELVES is certainly the answer!

Beings we all are,
seeking comfort in the hearts of others
whilst our own mends!

by daze7 on Wed Oct 07, 2009 5:26 pm

Hi Books, Thank you for sharing your story and trusting us with it. That takes courage.

We've met on Trademe for quite a long time now and it's good to see you here too. Trademe has its limitations!

That man was so horrible, abusive, and did hideous things to you. I know YOU know you're not responsible for his actions and attitudes. The abuser is ALWAYS 100 per cent responsible for the abuse - although children often take on the guilt. I could saymore but I won't give my energy to him .

There are many things you can feel really, really proud of - one is that you broke the cycle and have such good, special relationships with your children. AND you took them away from an abusive relationship too and showed them by example that one does not have to live with crap!

Good on YOU Books - I know it's not easy to 'take back personal power' on a daily (hourly) basis - and even just quite ordinary things (to other people) take a lot of energy, and it's hard to do the simplest things sometimes!

Hugs for you ...... Daze

by greasemonkey on Wed Oct 07, 2009 8:56 pm

daze7 wrote:Hi Books, Thank you for sharing your story and trusting us with it. That takes courage.

We've met on Trademe for quite a long time now and it's good to see you here too. Trademe has its limitations!

That man was so horrible, abusive, and did hideous things to you. I know YOU know you're not responsible for his actions and attitudes. The abuser is ALWAYS 100 per cent responsible for the abuse - although children often take on the guilt. I could saymore but I won't give my energy to him .

There are many things you can feel really, really proud of - one is that you broke the cycle and have such good, special relationships with your children. AND you took them away from an abusive relationship too and showed them by example that one does not have to live with crap!

Good on YOU Books - I know it's not easy to 'take back personal power' on a daily (hourly) basis - and even just quite ordinary things (to other people) take a lot of energy, and it's hard to do the simplest things sometimes!

Hugs for you ...... Daze

Has this... "That man was so horrible, abusive, and did hideous things to you." been arrested for His CRIME Daze?

How is it you think you give HIM the POWER to go about and do more damage to ppl?

These criminally insane ppl are sick also,
and Need ALL THE ATTENTION they can GET!

by daze7 on Wed Oct 07, 2009 10:06 pm

He's dead GM - read Books long post - can't be arrested now!

by greasemonkey on Thu Oct 08, 2009 1:03 am

daze7 wrote:He's dead GM - read Books long post - can't be arrested now!

you got me there Daze!

by Books4NZ on Mon Oct 12, 2009 1:54 am

Hi Everyone..

Thank you for the lovely comments above.. they make things easier..

Thank goodness for TBBD..

Have a lovely week.. Smile

by greasemonkey on Mon Oct 12, 2009 3:38 pm

Books4NZ wrote:Hi Everyone..

Thank you for the lovely comments above.. they make things easier..

Thank goodness for TBBD..

Have a lovely week..

Tis a Beautiful world
viewed from the centre!
Cheers!

by fedup on Mon Oct 26, 2009 8:59 am

in the past ive had so called friends dump me from a great height, cos i may have been moody or acted out strangely. i have bipolar and while most dont know or suspect, sometimes i can be...well a little DIFFERENT lol.

ive never had mates who really took into consideration my mental illness, and really why should they? i dont need to be treated differently howev er i just wish that sometimes people would stop and think to themselves, AHHHH you know, that may be why she said this, or did that, but im instantly labelled as a btch or nasty and thats that, nothing in between only black or white, no grey.

i generaly do not care if people want to stop being friends with me, their loss cos under the mask of bipolar, i am actually a very genuine, loyal and generous person to know, it just takes a bit of digging past the surface sometimes :-)

by greasemonkey on Tue Oct 27, 2009 12:21 am

thank you for your exceptionally clear posting on bi-polar
and about your then friends, you had.
In the racey-world we live in, alot of ppl are teamed-up to achieve things
and cant carry-another who has struck a temporary problem within their lives.

Of course you are a sincere person and your life is meaningfull
it shows in your post here.

Have you ever considered to become(develope) in your self,
some 'dettachment' from your energy, which is beautiful btw.

When it comes on, and its about to rise you 'upwards' and energise your entirity remember to allow it through "without Ownership! Its abit like chanelling.
If you could centre within the Centre of Gravity (navel zone)
you may find you can still do your work
but without the side effects of 'rising an falling'.

I do hope I am not to forward in my posting to you in this Manner.
love